Marie Alessi – Loving Life after Loss

There's a big hole in your life right now that you call loneliness.

It feels like a black hole, draining every ounce of leftover joy you still had in your life, after the biggest adversity pulled the rug underneath your feet. You feel numb and don't know how to make it stop.

Let's start simple. What if we replace “loneliness” with “there is a huge space to fill”. Instead of “there’ll always be a hole in my heart” you say “there’ll always be a place in my heart!”. We need to change our language in grief.

What if we find opportunity in adversity? What if you can find your truest, purest, most beautiful and authentic self, that is made from all parts of you… The childhood you, the wife, the mother, the friend, sister, dancer, artist, creator of joy, laughter and lightness – something that seems so incredibly far away from you right now.

I've got some profound news for you: Healing through grief is possible – there is endless opportunity in grief, yet we need to allow ourselves to move through the “neutral space” first.

It’s the space between grief and happiness, where pain and joy walk hand in hand.
I call this “neutral space” Healing.

Rob and I had a clear wish for one another – for the unspeakable “what if”:
“I want you to create the happiest life possible for you and the boys!” we would say to each other.

Having to share the harsh fact of my husband's sudden passing with our then 10 and 8 year old sons, made me decide something only moments after: to keep that promise Rob and I had declared for each other:
I chose HaPpiNeSs as our North Star.

Love is simple. ❤️
Love just wants you to be happy!

That afternoon, on our couch, previously filled with the most beautiful family memories, now overloaded with tears and primal screaming – I had no idea how, yet I knew I would make that promise come alive.

It took all I had – my life experience from losing my dad at 20, as well as over a decade of practicing & teaching Mindset – and turned it into what I now call Loving Life after Loss.

We have been featured in media outlets such as Channel 7, Channel 9, Mamamia, Good Life Magazine, as well as on radio stations such as Good Grief with Cheryl Jones, on Voice of America and uncountable podcasts that I was honoured to share the Love on.

Yes, healing is possible. We work magic at our Loving Life after LossRetreats.
You won’t come back as the same lost person you might feel you are right now.

So, now you might be questioning how this can apply to you; you might be tempted to experience such healing. I want you to know, my heart is wide open for you – all I want for you is healing!

We’ve got you! Contact me and I will talk to you in person!

The Movement

Grief is complicated enough.
We don’t need to succumb to society’s expectation around how to handle our emotions. We are here to do things differently. You're welcome to join us – you are not alone!

The Retreat

These incredible 3.5 days provide the perfect space for deeper healing and a little bit of luxury. An unforgettable and life-changing experience of being looked after and nurtured to the core of your soul!


This is for you when you are not ready to allow others in. You have hit rock bottom and don't know where to start. There are simple tools to embark on a very empowering healing journey.

My way of dealing with grief

Rob & I were 45, in the “prime of our lives” how people love to call it. And then one phone call changed our world forever: “I am sorry to inform you that your husband deceased in a hotel room in Perth this morning.”

It was like a needle scratching over the record while playing our favourite happy song.

And in this deafening silence I sat, my mind racing a million miles an hour.

In this very moment an unexpected strength kicked in – initially unnoticed, now impossible to ignore – that guided me every step of the way.

Little did I know that this was the seed planted for something so much bigger than the two of us. Rob himself had given me the North Star that guided me onto a path, that led me to creating a global movement; the most beautiful Love Legacy for Rob.

Grief can be looked at from different perspectives. Listen to this:


In my weekly series I unpack different topics to kickstart your week and leave you a bit more empowered.

Each Monday I go live for 10-20 mins to share something meaningful with you that can shift your perpective.

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Each week I have the honour of interviewing people from around the world who bring a positive spin to the world of grief.

There are some high-level speakers sharing very personal stories.

Tune in to be inspired and watch our latest #UpspiralGrief interview by clicking below:

LLaL Podcast

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